That question is like asking which is better blonde, brunette, or redhead. There's no clear cut answer, if you race the car it's abusive to the clutch plain and simple. This is going to boil down to what you tolerance level is for street driving vs performance on the track. I prefer a lightweight clutch with a low moi since that seems to enable the trans to shift well at high rpm and it also has better engine braking on decel. There's a trade off for that though, it's easier to stall the car on take off since there's no mass to keep the engine rolling, it also makes the engine snap up on rpm instantaneously so throttle modulation is more difficult. The friction material used also has an effect on life and grip. I started out with organic since that has a tendency for less chatter but quickly found out it didn't tolerate the heat well and it exploded. I then moved to iron material since it's more tolerant of heat, it has minor chatter when it gets hot. Now I'm at iron discs with unsprung hubs which I don't find anymore harsh than with the springs.
I was getting about a year out of a clutch with my old engine combo but now it looks like I may be exceeding the limits of the clutch since I bent one of the discs on the last one. I try to balance replacement cost/rebuild vs life. You can spend a $4K-$6K on the latest and greatest triple carbon wonder clutch but if only lasts 6 month's longer and requires a lot of maintenance is it really worth it vs buying a $1100 dollar clutch that needs to be rebuilt once a year?
This is what happens to an overheated organic disc, notice in the second pic the friction material is totally m.i.a.