I'm a big fan of just about anything from Intro (
www.introwheels.com) and Bonspeed (
http://www.uswheel.com/bonspeed/set.htm ). Their prices are quite reasonable and they are great people to deal with.
If you're still having a tough time picking wheels and really need to see a bunch of wheels on the car, get someone to photoshop them onto a photo of your car. It sounds like you need to set a max price for the set (+tires and mounting), narrow down the choices to fit that criteria and then do the photoshop thing.
Another word of advice, be prepared to spend a ton of time polishing wheels that are very "busy" looking or have rivets in the rim. The simpler the wheel design, the less time cleaning/polishing you will spend.
I've used
www.tirerack.com several times and had them sent to Intro to be mounted (the right way) and then shipped to me.
Good luck!