Can I rant/Vent???

[black2002ls]

Scott if this thread is off base, please feel free to shoot me a pm and lock it.

It has been a rough week. Out of the blue, my girlfriend of a year and a half, 19 months would have been today, just decided to up and leave, no explanation, just that she was gone. I had even bought her a 1/2 carat diamond ring. We were that serious. I gave her the world, everything she wanted...I screwed up a couple times, just talking to girls, never anything physical, but that was a long time ago. And I changed. I treated her better than she had ever been treated. and she just walks out on everything. Like it is nothing. How do you move one? how do you pick up the peices. any advice?

[XcYZ]

Maybe others can offer some better advice, but everything happens for a reason. It's hard to see that now, but down the road, you'll look back and realize what I mean.

Good luck.

[Beegs]

I've had a bad back for a long time, it has taught me much about life. Here it goes:

When I tweak my back it hurts like hell, but I keep moving, it (everytime) gets better as the days go by.

In the early years when I would hurt it, I would think about it 24/7. I would stay in bed thinking that would help it heal.

I was wrong.

I have learned over the years that no matter what happens to you in life, you HAVE to keep moving, stay busy! You will feel better as time goes by.

Keep yourself busy, MOVE and the length of time will be much shorter.

[Steve68]

Scott and Beegs are right, move on, and one day you'll look back and see the reasons, when this happened to me, my older friend told me " don't look a gift hourse in the mouth" which what I think means be glad this is happening now instead of later, all will get better with time, I know from experiance :thumbsup:

[ProTouring442]

Reminds me of a phrase my wife and I toss about on occasion. You see, my wife has Multiple Sclerosis. As you might imagine, MS has brought a lot of interesting things to our lives.

Sometimes, my wife can hardly walk, other times she walks very poorly. Sometimes, she walks fairly well. Once, for about 3 weeks, she went blind in one eye. The gal who could type 85wpm suddenly because her fingers stopped working, couldn't do more than hunt and peck. Now, she back to the 85wpm. Oh, the best for last, she pees through a tube. Has to catheterize nearly every time she goes (she tells everyone, she's even writing a book). So, to our phrase;

We love the movie Tombstone, and if you have seen it, you will remember a scene where Doc Holiday is in the sanatorium talking to Waytt Earp. Doc says to Wyatt "what did you want out of life" to which Wyatt replies "oh I don't know, just a normal life I guess." Doc's answer says it all, "There's no such thing as a normal life Wyatt, there's just life, and you get on with it."

Crazy true too, there is no such thing as a normal life... and you just get on with it. The others who have posted have it right. Go do the things you otherwise might want to do. Just get out and try to have a good time.

It sucks, I know. But, it will get better.


Bill
'72 442 "Inamorata"
www.fquick.com/ProTouring442

[3kidsnotime]

If im correct you are working on your Physics Degree?? Dont dig too deep in the subject you are young and enjoy it, All things happen for one reason or another, it is better it was now than after time and children are involved, go back to talking to those other girls and dont get real involved for now somtimes its better to stand alone and have a good time. This will soon pass and you will find the only problem in life is its too short. It looks to me your young single and have a head on your shoulders I know what id be dooing :unibrow:..........My wife says I cant do that any more :(

[tyoneal]

I went through a similar situation years ago.

You need to greive then move on.

If that is the type of person she is, your lucky she left now and didn't waste anymore of your time.

Immerse yourself in things that will improve your life. Since your in School, bust your fanny in your studies and be glad you don't have any distraction.

There are plenty of nice girls out there that have been screwed around just like you. Before long you will meet one of them and she will appreciate a guy who won't step out on her. (If you want to keep her be sure and give her the confidense that ONLY she is your girl)

And most of all, "FOR GOD'S SAKE, DON'T EVEN THINK ABOUT TAKING HER BACK!!!"

If you do, you get what you diserve!

This should be you ONE and Only time your going to have to go throught this garbage with her.

Suck it up, Finish School, get a Kick Ass Job and a nice PT Car and ENJOY LIFE. The right girl will find you. In the mean time build your resume!

I promise life is too damn short to involve yourself with this.

Hang in there............

tyoneal

[black2002ls]

thanks for all of the comments, words of wisdom, and such. I am a firm believer of things happening for a reason, part of a grander scheme. It was just so sudden and out of the blue.

[ProdigyCustoms]

Out of the blue and sudden may turn out to be a blessing in the long run. You could have gone through months and months of arguing, sleeplessness, following her around, getting arrested for kicking someone's ass........

I have seen lots of the drama in freinds, this may have been easier.

[steemin]

I went through a similar situation years ago.

You need to greive then move on.

If that is the type of person she is, your lucky she left now and didn't waste anymore of your time.

Immerse yourself in things that will improve your life. Since your in School, bust your fanny in your studies and be glad you don't have any distraction.

There are plenty of nice girls out there that have been screwed around just like you. Before long you will meet one of them and she will appreciate a guy who won't step out on her. (If you want to keep her be sure and give her the confidense that ONLY she is your girl)

And most of all, "FOR GOD'S SAKE, DON'T EVEN THINK ABOUT TAKING HER BACK!!!"

If you do, you get what you diserve!

This should be you ONE and Only time your going to have to go throught this garbage with her.

Suck it up, Finish School, get a Kick Ass Job and a nice PT Car and ENJOY LIFE. The right girl will find you. In the mean time build your resume!

I promise life is too damn short to involve yourself with this.

Hang in there............

tyoneal

Great advice!!!
Especially the "taking her back" part.

I waited until I was 31 to get married....
Whats the hurry?
I had time to sew my oats,start a business, buy a house,own some cool cars..
I have now been married for 15 years No regrets..
Scott

[BC69]

I have been there man. Sucks alot for a little while, but once you can step outside of it, and look back with a clear head.

You will go....WHAT THE @%#@% WAS I THINKING! ;)

Or at least thats what I did!


Tim

[Damn True]

a) Return the ring, use the money for tuition. The return on the investment will be ten-fold (at least).

b) Never ever ever ever entertain the thought of seeing her again. No good will come of it.

c) Realize now that there is no sense at all being in a relationship with anyone until you are at a point in your life where you DONT NEED to have a relationship.

Been there pal. It never gets easier. But I can assure you that it can be prevented by staying away from relationships until you dont need a relationship. I don't mean dont be social, or dont date. By all means, do those things. But dont "have a girlfriend" or live with anyone (ferrchrissakes dont get anyone pregnant) until you and the parter of your choice are at a place in life where you have all you need and are ready to share. As opposed to needing the other to fill some kind of void in one anothers lives.

[Gone Fishin]

Black2002ls

Two phrases stood out in your original post:

"I gave her the world, everything she wanted..."

And she took it, right? When you find the girl who wants to give YOU the world, you should realize that she's the real keeper.

"and she just walks out on everything. Like it is nothing."

Someone like that doesn't have enough guts or grace to face the person who loves her and say: "It's over, here are the things you gave me" and at least let you have the opportunity to recoup some of the money you wasted on her.

Sorry if I sound harsh, but I've been married to a great gal for 34 years. We've been through a lot, but we've always respected each other. I have, however, seen several of my friends nearly ruined by heartless partners. Just be glad you didn't marry her. The divorce would have REALLY cost you!

Focus on your life and work/school. Don't be too anxious to get into another serious relationship until you've played the field for a while. When the right one comes along, she'll stand out from the crowd!

[ProTouring442]

Great points here! While my wife and I have only been married for a little over 5 years, I am sure we have a lifetime of happy years ahead of us because it's a give-give relationship. We don't do anything without the background thought of how it will affect the other. If you're in it for the other person, and they're in it for you, its incredible!

Shiny Side Up!
Bill
'72 442 "Inamorata"
www.FQuick.com/ProTouring442



Black2002ls

Two phrases stood out in your original post:

"I gave her the world, everything she wanted..."

And she took it, right? When you find the girl who wants to give YOU the world, you should realize that she's the real keeper.

"and she just walks out on everything. Like it is nothing."

Someone like that doesn't have enough guts or grace to face the person who loves her and say: "It's over, here are the things you gave me" and at least let you have the opportunity to recoup some of the money you wasted on her.

Sorry if I sound harsh, but I've been married to a great gal for 34 years. We've been through a lot, but we've always respected each other. I have, however, seen several of my friends nearly ruined by heartless partners. Just be glad you didn't marry her. The divorce would have REALLY cost you!

Focus on your life and work/school. Don't be too anxious to get into another serious relationship until you've played the field for a while. When the right one comes along, she'll stand out from the crowd!