you guys ever hide a car from wife?

[deuce32]

i feel terrible to hide stuff but i bought my 68 camaro in dec last year and the car is need of full resto , it is at my friends house in a tent now , and i have my schwartz frame comming next week for it as well , currently i have in my garage is a 68 bird , 64 vette , 32 ford highboy , and a 57 nomad wagon . but this camaro is part of my youth since i had so many of them , at 33 ive had at least 12 of them and that was up to 1998 was the one before this one . but anyway ive got to break silence soon and get the car home . i just dont want to hear the freakout , she is a car gal but i think too many of them gets her like this .....:willy: so any suggestions and or simular stories going on ?? hope i dont sound like a looser but i respect my wife she works as well and lieing isnt gonna get me anywere. oh yeah funny thing i have a small loft near the ceiling of my garage and she sees a ton of new nos metal up there and my carbon hood as well saying what is that stuff for ...?? maybe you should sell it since you arent using that stuff up there .....oh boy i need help here ...

thanks for reading this :lateral:

ps multipul ups shippments to my house isnt helping as well :rofl:

[Hulley]

i feel terrible to hide stuff but i bought my 68 camaro in dec last year and the car is need of full resto , it is at my friends house in a tent now , and i have my schwartz frame comming next week for it as well , currently i have in my garage is a 68 bird , 64 vette , 32 ford highboy , and a 57 nomad wagon . but this camaro is part of my youth since i had so many of them , at 33 ive had at least 12 of them and that was up to 1998 was the one before this one . but anyway ive got to break silence soon and get the car home . i just dont want to hear the freakout , she is a car gal but i think too many of them gets her like this .....:willy: so any suggestions and or simular stories going on ?? hope i dont sound like a looser but i respect my wife she works as well and lieing isnt gonna get me anywere. oh yeah funny thing i have a small loft near the ceiling of my garage and she sees a ton of new nos metal up there and my carbon hood as well saying what is that stuff for ...?? maybe you should sell it since you arent using that stuff up there .....oh boy i need help here ...

thanks for reading this :lateral:

ps multipul ups shippments to my house isnt helping as well :rofl:
With all the cars you have now, I dont feel for ya! :faint: j/k
Good luck though, my wife would have a field day on my ass! I tried hiding summit racing and jegs packages for my 68' Chevelle and boy was she pissed when she found them! Let us now how it went, get it on vid! :woot:

[deuce32]

video of what??? her kickin my azz :D im scared silly tring to find a iding place for my chassis that is commin . i guess up against the wall sideways behind a car or so ....not good im gonna really have to work her over on this one .

[65 347]

When she finds out and starts tossing out yor stuff, can Ihave your '32?

Just kidding, good luck telling her.

[Beegs]

If you didn't hide s**t from her...maybe she wouldn't kick your azz.

[frankenstang]

It's gonna be hard to hide a chassis man. What I wanna know is hoe in the hell do you hide the money you spend? You are gonna love the frame from Jeff. I have assembled about 10 of them for Jeff at his shop. It's a great product. Don't be afraid to call him if you have any questions.

[Stuart Adams]

The cars are ALOT more fun when the wife and family are included. Some members are obviously more into cars than others, but it makes it more special when you can share. Just MO.

[Spiffav8]

I only have my Camaro but I didn't tell my wife about it until it was on the way up from TX. She was pissed and very hurt that I didn't tell her about it. The reason I didn't say anything was due to the fact that we had jut bought our house and moved in that same week and I knew that she would want all kinds of new stuff before I bought a car. Once it got here I made it a point to have her involved in everything that was done to or with the car. She actually enjoys the car a great deal. I also made sure to get things around the house done in a timely manner as proof that the car wasn't keeping what she sees as the bigger priority from happening. I was lucky and it's all worked out well for me.

You've already sinned and now it's time to make up for it. How you handle it will determine the outcome. The fact that you have so many cars is going to be the big challenge. Perhaps an agreement of some type on how many cars you have at anyone time would be in order. Also getting her input on what's done to the car won't hurt. I'd bet the big hurt she feels is being left out of the process and the fact that you hid the car.

Take your lumps and GOOD LUCK!!

[Smack_talker]

Wow...all I can say is I hope you got her a nice gift on V.D. Its sometimes easier to ask for forgiveness than permission on the car addiction. I hid a car from my finacee and she still hasnt gotten over it...so find her weakness and buy her something....shoes...jewlery...or just ask SW how he does it.:_paranoid He seems to be able to have all the toys he wants..:lol: If she tells you to sell some of your cars...can I have dibs on the bird?:thumbsup:

[Steve1968LS2]

Tell her it was on sale and you HAD to buy it because you saved so much money.

Hell, isn't that the story they use.. ;)

[awr68]

Yeah you're going to have to come clean real soon...there's now way you are going to hide the crated up chassis!

My God Father had property and always was hiding project cars in the trees as well as at friends houses. When he passed one, his wife found out about most of them...I think his friends kept some stuff knowing she had no idea what all he owned....

Do you have room in your shop for the car?

[mazspeed]

My wife was starting to get frustrated by my spending habits with the car, till I bought her a brand new S60 Volvo. Now she doesn't care what I spend. Bribery works. Plus you should not have to lie, she will find out soon enough. Better you tell her then for her to find out on her own.

[Bowtieracing]

Cant hide a car but i collect old porcelain signs and sometime they can be real pricy. So i "cool" them for a while :_paranoid and then put on the wall...:D

[deuce32]

Yeah you're going to have to come clean real soon...there's now way you are going to hide the crated up chassis!

My God Father had property and always was hiding project cars in the trees as well as at friends houses. When he passed one, his wife found out about most of them...I think his friends kept some stuff knowing she had no idea what all he owned....

Do you have room in your shop for the car?



yeah i do have room the garage fits 4 cars and i have an enclosed trailer too that works for the nomad since it is a larger car , but i had the camaro home for 8 days when i first got it and she once asked 2 days after car came home "what is in the car trailer ? i may want to pick up some furniture " well lets say i dodged a bullet we never needed the trailer so after that i got the cat to my friends house .

my wife is involved with the cars , she does the polishing and small stuff to help , the reason i went a got the car with out asking was i just wanted it here and ill take the black eye soon and she will get over it . if i asked and she said no then bought the car i can see a kick in the balls and damage to our marrage ...

oh yeah paypal works wonders for spending cash .....so much i talked anvill into adding paypal on there site ......then they thanked me for it later .

[rocketman]

I used to hide them or just buy them and bring them home. She gets all pissed and complains for awhile, but I have a selective hearing disorder and don't really remember her complaints. Something about I spend more on cars than her, I said yeah but there worth more.....

[awr68]

Paypal is nice...I just hate paying the fees....it adds up quick on the larger deals.

[Young Gun]

come clean...lying to her about something as stupid as a car wont help anything...definately wont be good for the marriage...

[YancyJohns]

Do like I tell my boys when they want another toy, you have get rid of one to get another.. Not good advise, but might work for a while. Sorry, I would let you have my dog house, but I'm still in it from the Dart. You can't hide the TV...lol

[warren1328]

Wow...all I can say is I hope you got her a nice gift on V.D. Its sometimes easier to ask for forgiveness than permission on the car addiction. I hid a car from my finacee and she still hasnt gotten over it...so find her weakness and buy her something....shoes...jewlery...or just ask SW how he does it.:_paranoid He seems to be able to have all the toys he wants..:lol: If she tells you to sell some of your cars...can I have dibs on the bird?:thumbsup:

I think we can safely assume that if he gave her V.D. she wouldn't be too happy at all...........oh wait, just re-read your post :)
Back on-topic, I've been contemplating how to get a sedan-delivery under my wifes nose for a while now. No chance!
One tack may be to come home all excited about the car you got GIVEN as xxxxx couldn't do anything with it.

[surreyboy]

mine usually finds out when she comes into the garage and finds something that wasnt there before.:faint:

[deuce32]

funny you say that mine walks in the garage and does that look once in a while and asks is that new ????''naa that ol thing it was in the attic or cabnet i just took it out .....lol

i think she knows about my car crazyness but maybe just humers me once in a while by asking about certain things she sees ...

[MaxHarvard]

2 things you need to know...

The 48 hour rule - You have 48 hours upon procuring said item and leaving it in sight of the Mrs.. After 48 hours, you are legitimately able to say, "that old thing? had it since forever".

and

The prices you pay rule -

#1. The price you actually paid for the item
#2. The price you tell the wife you paid for the item
#3. The price you pay when the wife finds out how much you actually paid.

[Smack_talker]

2 things you need to know...

The 48 hour rule - You have 48 hours upon procuring said item and leaving it in sight of the Mrs.. After 48 hours, you are legitimately able to say, "that old thing? had it since forever".

and

The prices you pay rule -

#1. The price you actually paid for the item
#2. The price you tell the wife you paid for the item
#3. The price you pay when the wife finds out how much you actually paid.

I think my GF has figured out that the price I paid is usually double what I told her. It s like asking them how many partners they had in the past.:rofl:

[syborg tt]

Funny last month my wife asked me how much i've spent on my project.

I quickly replied less then you've spent on shoes and cloths in the last five years.

[Tony@AirRideTech]

Dirt bikes in the past and shotguns now...... :) The way I see it is, I am not lieing if I dont tell. now.... all the shotguns blend in together so she doesnt care to know the difference and I am not allowed to own dirt bikes anymore or I will be served divorce papars.....:_paranoid On your car..... good luck man! The only way I can see to bail yourself out of it now is to come clean :):cool: Its up to you as to how many details you care to devulge. It always starts out like " my good buddy "insert name here" has a really good deal on that Camaro he has been working on because he cant afford to finish it. ... Like a good shoe sale... she might understand it. Whatever you do... you cant flat out lie... it simply aint worth it.

[NEVER ENOUGH]

Tell her it was on sale and you HAD to buy it because you saved so much money.

Hell, isn't that the story they use.. ;)
You nailed it on the head with this.:thumbsup:

[bmxmon]

What I would do is make sure she sees the frame being delivered. When she comes and asks "whats this for" you say the Camaro. Better yet, say OUR frame for OUR Camaro. Might throw her off a bit, then it would probably be a good time to go get the Camaro. Its a sure-fire way to get your ass kicked, but at least it would be a good story!

[deuce32]

im gonna say it is a jig , for building a camaro to make money :rofl:

[Theresa]

This thread is so enlightening. Now I know all the tricks.

[deuce32]

oh great a skirt ................everybody run :geezer:

[bucks69]

oh great a skirt ................everybody run :geezer:


:rofl:

[porkchop]

Take this for whats its worth. This past fall I could have bought a 68 corvette big block 4spd car. It was factory tri-power alum.headed car but of course that stuff was missing. But it was running driving car. I opened my big mouth and talked to her first. Well the guy that ended up buying it had it on e-bay and of last night it was at 20,100 bucks.smooth move e-lax. that would be me.I could have had it fo 12,000 never agian.New motto/creed buy first open big mouth later.

[deuce32]

Take this for whats its worth. This past fall I could have bought a 68 corvette big block 4spd car. It was factory tri-power alum.headed car but of course that stuff was missing. But it was running driving car. I opened my big mouth and talked to her first. Well the guy that ended up buying it had it on e-bay and of last night it was at 20,100 bucks.smooth move e-lax. that would be me.I could have had it fo 12,000 never agian.New motto/creed buy first open big mouth later.



exactly my point , if i were to speak it would be no .....and then id stomp my feet to get it then she would hate the car forever .

one thing is my car is all apart i can get it home and say honey i got it for a few hundred bucks ...the car is believable to a woman even though it has a new floor in it and new nos quarter panel with new rockers as well . but it is all stripped as well everyware else

[Mikael A]

I spent a month on the soffa after i came home with the srt 10.
Dude if you are serius about this girl dont lie, You will hear it for the rest of
your looooooong life.

mike a

[deuce32]

is not telling her lieing ? she never asked if i had a camaro ..... she is my wife and she does have some say so that is why im apprehensive , if she a girl friend id tell her to mind her own buisness . i will tell her but in good time

[DriverzInc]

Man, I have the unique opportunity to see these stories unfold from the a few different sides of the spectrum. The first, is, I'll tell you, you are NOT alone. I can't tell you how many of my customers ask me to not call them at home, and to use their cell phones to avoid their wives/or girl friends. OR, to ship their invoices to their offices so they wouldn't intercept them in the mail. Hell, I have a few customers who use certain credit cards that have completely different billing addresses that their wives don't have a clue about. I've seen, and heard it all....

And on the other side, i've completely lied to my wife about parts I've bought for my projects. "Oh, this part was donated", or "I horse traded for this part", etc. I can tell you I've come to the conclusion, it's just not worth it man. This car hobby can rip your relationships apart with your family, and the last thing in the world I would ever want is my wife and I to part, and no car, or car part is ever going to be worth that.

So I have a new policy, I tell her. And I tell her ahead of time, I'm going to do this, or this is the plan for this car, and this is about what it's going to cost, and she's been awesome about it ever since. She says she trusts me, and has seen that I've never made a 'bad buy' and never put our family at risk, so she's been great about all my projects, and spending. I found that the only time I ever felt like I really needed to lie about something I bought is because it probably was a really bad time to do it, or we really didn't have the money for it. When we have the money, and the time is right, then it's never a problem. I always make it a point to show her why my next purchase is a good idea, i.e., how it adds value to the car, or if is a whole car, then why it's a great buy. Like the chevelle I just bought. I showed her what it appraised for, and what I bought it for, and then we came up with a plan to make it what we both want. I'm MUCH HAPPIER now. There's no deception, and I don't feel as though I'm doing something wrong... just enjoying my hobby.

So, my advice... talk to her, tell her everything, and tell her why you bought it, and why it was a great deal, and work it all out. Come clean, cuz it's not worth the lying, which could lead to completely larger problems in your marriage, and you definitely don't want that.

Good luck! :thumbsup:

[Mikael A]

Hey if you can afford to play than than do what you want:D
Its all fun and games until some one gets hurt:captain:

mike a

[jeff s]

*******************

[dhondagod]

Man, I have the unique opportunity to see these stories unfold from the a few different sides of the spectrum. The first, is, I'll tell you, you are NOT alone. I can't tell you how many of my customers ask me to not call them at home, and to use their cell phones to avoid their wives/or girl friends. OR, to ship their invoices to their offices so they wouldn't intercept them in the mail. Hell, I have a few customers who use certain credit cards that have completely different billing addresses that their wives don't have a clue about. I've seen, and heard it all....

And on the other side, i've completely lied to my wife about parts I've bought for my projects. "Oh, this part was donated", or "I horse traded for this part", etc. I can tell you I've come to the conclusion, it's just not worth it man. This car hobby can rip your relationships apart with your family, and the last thing in the world I would ever want is my wife and I to part, and no car, or car part is ever going to be worth that.

So I have a new policy, I tell her. And I tell her ahead of time, I'm going to do this, or this is the plan for this car, and this is about what it's going to cost, and she's been awesome about it ever since. She says she trusts me, and has seen that I've never made a 'bad buy' and never put our family at risk, so she's been great about all my projects, and spending. I found that the only time I ever felt like I really needed to lie about something I bought is because it probably was a really bad time to do it, or we really didn't have the money for it. When we have the money, and the time is right, then it's never a problem. I always make it a point to show her why my next purchase is a good idea, i.e., how it adds value to the car, or if is a whole car, then why it's a great buy. Like the chevelle I just bought. I showed her what it appraised for, and what I bought it for, and then we came up with a plan to make it what we both want. I'm MUCH HAPPIER now. There's no deception, and I don't feel as though I'm doing something wrong... just enjoying my hobby.

So, my advice... talk to her, tell her everything, and tell her why you bought it, and why it was a great deal, and work it all out. Come clean, cuz it's not worth the lying, which could lead to completely larger problems in your marriage, and you definitely don't want that.

Good luck! :thumbsup:


Thread winner! :woot: :cheers: :bow:


Ive done it this way with my wife since before we were married. We've been together 26 yrs, been married 21. She knew I was a motorhead then, and still am now. She also knows I will NEVER put my car/motorcycle/boat/jetski/etc hobbies before Her, our kids, or our home. Its a good way to be man, dont plan on it being smooth sailing in the beginning untill you prove you can be trusted, but its a good way to be.


Chris:cool:

[Derek69SS]

Wait until she's gone for a weekend, do a thorough cleaning of the garage, and stick it in the back somewhere... when she asks, "I Found it when I cleaned out the garage"

My dad actually used that one once. :D

[Spiffav8]

Wait until she's gone for a weekend, do a thorough cleaning of the garage, and stick it in the back somewhere... when she asks, "I Found it when I cleaned out the garage"

My dad actually used that one once. :D


Let me know if you try this and it works.

[deuce32]

thats a funny one , well even if i went down the road of saying it is for her that would be desastous she then would have me build it and then i wouldnt be able to drive it , true story ......

for sure the deal is going to go down while she is at work im gonna seak it in the garage and cover it and say im saving it from a bad family it has been abused .....

another thing to say is honey you know all those parts all over the garage and in shed well it will all go in one place soon ... :lol:

:willy: :willy: :willy:

[ALLFAITH]

Get a twin brother like me, one of us lies the other of us swears to our respective wives and the other backs us up.:D

Brad

[Wayne S]

My wife wouldn't talk to me for months if I lied to her about that, or something that big. Plus, my conscience wouldn't be able to take it.

I think you should buy her a really nice, expensive gift (jewelry, trip, a day at a spa, etc.) then give it to her and tell her that you just bought something for yourself and wanted to get her something too. At least that will make her feel guilty about being mad at you when you got her this great gift as well.:thumbsup:

[MaxHarvard]

Thread winner! :woot: :cheers: :bow:


Ive done it this way with my wife since before we were married. We've been together 26 yrs, been married 21. She knew I was a motorhead then, and still am now. She also knows I will NEVER put my car/motorcycle/boat/jetski/etc hobbies before Her, our kids, or our home. Its a good way to be man, dont plan on it being smooth sailing in the beginning untill you prove you can be trusted, but its a good way to be.


Chris:cool:

Been married only a few years, but i have started doing the same thing. I told her how much the car will cost and how much i'm going to spend in the long run and what my time frame is. Worked out well so far, and besides, in the future if she askes... i have total right to say, "we talked about this before" :D

[Streetking]

The cars are ALOT more fun when the wife and family are included. Some members are obviously more into cars than others, but it makes it more special when you can share. Just MO.

Exactly, my wife knows every car I have and whenever I get something new, the first thing she always asks is "when are you going to lower it?" :D

SW

[MaxHarvard]

Exactly, my wife knows every car I have and whenever I get something new, the first thing she always asks is "when are you going to lower it?" :D

SW


:lol:
I can do you one better... i'm in the laundry room and see a bottle of bleach sitting out, half gone. I ask, "want me to put the bleach back?", she says, "i'm not using bleach anymore, i was saving that half bottle so you can do burnouts"

:wow:

[akrapovic]

I've found that it's easier to beg for forgiveness than to ask for permission.

[MaxHarvard]

I've found that it's easier to beg for forgiveness than to ask for permission.


That will only last so long.... patience is not infinite.

[rocketman]

Funny last month my wife asked me how much i've spent on my project.

I quickly replied less then you've spent on shoes and cloths in the last five years.



LOL, I tell my don't ask the question, if don't want the answer

[rocketman]

I've found that it's easier to beg for forgiveness than to ask for permission.


Yes it is, but I don't ask for either. Who wears the pants there anyway... geez

[Tiger]

I've been reading these posts for a few days and they are great fun.

If I need a big tool or car part tell her way in advance, I really need that tool/part then I tell her again once every few days until I buy it several months later, she will be totally happy that I finally bought it and shut up.

Then after a week or two I start it over for the next item :rolleyes:

If it is something big I tell her how much it costs, if its something smaller I do forget to tell sometimes, if she asks how much it is I tend to answer about thousand.

[Hulley]

I've been married less than a year and I'm learning SO much! :thumbsup:

[Vince@Meanstreets]

...yeah I keep my pink slips in my porn drawer. LOL

no actualy my wife and I don't keep secrets...it doesn't help that she's just as bad as I am with the car stuff.

[steemin]

Lifes short.
If you can afford it and you want it you should buy it...

As far as the wife is concerned..
I have always told my wife about car purchases that I was going to make.
(mods and upgrades are sometimes a different story:unibrow: )
I think that you have to set the tone early in the relationship..
If they think that they have veto power you are toast:(
Scott

[tumper93]

You could always go to a swap meet and bring it home the same day and tell her to come see what you found....and that it was all in pieces so it was a really good deal. Still a lie though!!

[hotrodf1]

I'd have to go with honesty on this one too. My wife is quite understanding, if the deal was great and the money was there, I could persuade her no problem I think. We are doing the Ramsey plan anyhow, so she knows exactly how much I have to spend each week / month, etc. Makes for some slow going, but it's the best plan for the future I guess.

But buy something without telling her = no trust = disaster. gotta be happy at home, man.

[akrapovic]

Yes it is, but I don't ask for either. Who wears the pants there anyway... geez

You're my idol

[BThibodeaux]

[
The prices you pay rule -

#1. The price you actually paid for the item
#2. The price you tell the wife you paid for the item
#3. The price you pay when the wife finds out how much you actually paid.[/QUOTE]


I resemble that remark....

[HRBS]

Its hard for me because "Mrs. Hot Rods by Steve" helps with the billing and the book keeping !
I tried to cover up my 62 Bel Air by hiding it in the back of the shop claiming " its a customers car". Then she asked for the contract or file on it..... I said I'd get back to her on that and to never come in the garage unannounced again !!! :lol:
Thats why I built her a car and sometimes sleep with the dog in his house !

[x-sprint]

I guess I'm one of the lucky ones. Been married going on 25 years. I've always had some type of "project(s)" (mostly Camaros) going on and my wife and kids have always been there with a helping hand. Right now there's a 68 Firebird conv't project LS1, 4L60e "for her" and the requisite Harley in the work shop. The only thing that rubs me raw is that she never lets me forget about the last Camaro I sold (yeah, yeah stupid me - 69 SS/RS Cortez Silver black hockey stripe, black deluxe Houndstooth interior, matching #'s 350, M-22, 12 bolt 4:11, a/c, p/w, p/s,t/w, fold down rear seat, factory AM/FM, fiber optic light option, etc.) Plus she's always asking me when am I going to do another 69! But, in Hawaii everything is sooooo..... expensive and everyone wants gold for trash. Then your parts estimate always has to be doubled for a thing called shipping.

Don't take this the wrong way but, you guys need to just "man up" and tell her whats coming home, then keep them involved. Hey free labor and it's better than lawyer or counselor fees. Plus it keeps the kids away from substance abuse. Good luck to you guys and keep those projects coming.

Just a shout out to Bruce Hanson; any updates on that beautiful Project Freebird of yours? I hope to see some pics soon. Thanks.

[Texas Bob]

Funny I happened in on this thread at 11:44pm as the wife sleeps comfortably upstairs and I surf for car porn here on Lateral-g.net. I'm going to be in the dog house as well and wondered how I might break it to my wife that I'm hiding a car.

It's a well known fact that I've been wanting a dreaming of a 1st gen Camaro for yrs. I even ordered Tony's book on Building and Modifying GM cars for pro touring while overseas in Iraq. The fact that I had little to no $ and very little know how kept me from proceeding forward at the time when these cars were affordable. Surely all the classes at the local junior college solidified her notion that it would one day happen. Who takes welding and body work with a Criminal Justice degree?

So over the last week I happened on a prime candidate. A 69 at a point where I am comfortable at taking over the project. The price is fair for said named vehicle and current status. So I jumped on it. Didn't tell my wife, nor would I have gotten the ok from her if I did. Am I happy as a school boy whose hot blond teacher comes on to him? Yes! I figure in due time, we'll agree that this is the right time jointly and what do you know....found a local guy selling a sweet 69.

Till then the car will continue it's build via a storage unit nearby. For my wife, much love and prayers that one day she'll be accepting of my toy. Hey, at least it's not a girlfriend I'm hiding....although she may see it as being in the same category if the cat gets out of the bag.

[Spiffav8]

Bob,

The long you wait the more damage it will do. Tell her about the car and bring it home from the storage unit. Make it a family event and you'll be fine. Hide it and it will get stolen.

It's just Murphy's Law.

Good Luck!

[deuce32]

well guys , i told the wifey that im gonna build another camaro , she so far thinks it is a cool idea but says in future.......:willy: anyway what i said to save myself was im gonna look soon for a cheap one that needs resto and put it in corner of garage till im ready ....used the hey i got to get soon before prices get too high . so far it is left like that so maybe later in the spring here or summer ill bring it home and show her the car . i feel terrible about fibbing but she never asked if i owned one right...?? but id garantee id feel even worse if she shot down the whole idea .....

ps she even said we should put a roll bar in it and paint it black .....at least she has the right idea ......:thumbsup:

[monza]

I just tell her it comes with a Louis Vuitton hand bag..... I'm kidding but in the end she always uses my cars against me in a fun way, do you know what them damn bags cost!! The wife is supportive.

[deuce32]

yeah i hate those blows to the nuts about my cars , but we do live with dual income so i guess she has some say in things too .....

[byndbad914]

is not telling her lieing ? she never asked if i had a camaro ..... she is my wife and she does have some say so that is why im apprehensive , if she a girl friend id tell her to mind her own buisness . i will tell her but in good time
without reading all the posts, I got to this one.

Lie to girlfriends, never lie to your wife. You have it backwards.

The other thing I learned from my parents was to keep all money separate (they didn't and I heard all the BS fighting over who's money was who's and so forth). Then there is no asking/agreeing what I can buy and vice-versa. We recently bought a house and I pay about 5 times the mortgage amount because I wanted a big-arse house with 3 car garage, etc. She was fine with much less and so I agreed to pay more to buy my happiness. So on bills we are 50/50 and the house we are "you have to have it, you buy it" and that all works out cool.

That said, she can't believe how much money I "waste on that fricken car" but that is a statement, not a point of argument. I shut any of that crap down ASAP when we first started living together. My money is mine, hers is hers and if I have to work 'til the day I die... or vice-versa... then so be it.

You start lying tho' and that is a recipe for disaster. NO relationship will be healthy without absolute 100% trust and this is the first step toward removal of trust. If she is silly enough to ask if you "would sleep with her really hot co-worker if you could get away with it and nobody would find out", and your answer is yes in your head, say yes. I told Kristi a long time ago don't ask what you don't want to hear the answer to cuz I would sleep with most of her friends hahaha :yes: you know, if there were no consequences (yeah, right!)

[deuce32]

dude your gonna make me jump off a cliff:willy:

[byndbad914]

haha. well don't just run into the living room crying and screaming "I bought a frame and wanna screw your sister" :unibrow: the truth of the matter is if you can't be honest with her, there is a larger question/issue looming... and most likely you just need to be honest and any question/issue is a point of imagination. Be upfront... if it is an issue then fix the issue, don't avoid it. And fixing it may be realizing you should NOT have bought the frame, I dunno your situation nor pretend to, only you two can know that, but I find most people beg forgiveness later because in their heart they know the correct answer was no to begin with. A man is only as faithful as his options isn't the best practice.

And there is a reason why I don't ask Kristi "If Matthew McConahay (or however you spell that name) were to ask you to sleep with him..." cuz I already know the answer and just consider myself lucky the chance that would happen is like none. :lol:

[deuce32]

i know you are right but , i rather live with a little bit of guilt then live with no camaro and just dream about it . when i bring it home on the trailer it will be like i just purchased it and we will share our excitement together then . im looking at it as it is on hold .

[notorious1970]

ummm..yes....notorious would fit that category. Its going to be sort of a surprise..hehe

-derek

[syborg tt]

ummm..yes....notorious would fit that category. Its going to be sort of a surprise..hehe

-derek

Do what my buddy John did. His wife told him that he should just build another truck with all of the parts that he has laying around so he did.

So really it's her fault ( and she agree's )


You just have to figure out a way to convince her it was her idea and then you good to go.

Trust me it's all in the Delivery - you can do it .......

[byndbad914]

all I know is I stayed at a Holiday Inn last night and Dr. Phil was on... so I know what I am talking about :rofl:

[oorange67]

I've hidden lots of cars but she always finds out but she is usually pretty cool about it because I am who I am and I can not pass up a good deal or a cool car. Besides I usually sell the cars for more than I purchase the cars for so it helps pay for my hobby......:willy:

[Hdesign]

Bachelors-
You still have time to find a girl that's into cars or at least appreciates your passion. This will save you from the inevitable reality that they may get upset about almost every purchase you make, whether you give them full disclosure about your car addiction before the wedding, justify your purchase, tell them ahead of time about purchases, bribe them or try to hide it. Many wives think they can change you or it's something you'll "outgrow". You'll pay BIG TIME forever if you deceive them because you feel pressured that you have to.

You can ether take a freshly paved highway or a muddy, pothole filled wagon trail from here. Make it easy on yourself and your wife!

This isn't to say you should be irresponsible by putting cars over family. That's never a good idea.

Married guys-
Godspeed!:D

[ScotI]

Just one :_paranoid ?

[ls1 nova]

Only been married 5 yrs but has worked for me. Just be honest and totally separate checking accounts. She spends just as much on the house and clothes,shoes,and whatever else women spend money on!